Every year in Australia:
In times of crisis even the strongest dads need support.
At times like this they feel like they need to be the Pillar of Strength.
No matter how tough you are, some things you just can’t do on your own. Pillars of Strength is here for dads so they can support their families.
Pillars of Strength is a not for profit organisation dedicated to providing “Time Out” and “In Hospital Support” programs for dads while their baby is ill and to bereaved dads after the loss of their infant child.
We are committed to finding ways to provide practical assistance as well as much needed peer support for dads in times of crisis so they can be there for their immediate family, particularly the baby’s mum.
Providing Timeout & Support to Dads so they can support their familiies
“Since we have established this program as a pilot in RNSH NICU we have seen the benefits of it for the dads - and the mums. A dad is now easily and non-confrontationally able to ask for support, through asking his mate to come with him to a game or event provided by PoS. This informal support facilitates timely and relevant social and emotional support.
This welcomed distraction and emotional support pays dividends for the wife and family as the dads return energised and with a new lease on life. And mums are able to direct their husbands to take a break from domestic concerns and encourage them to emotionally recharge. This strengthens the husbands and the wife knows that the reprieve will enable her pillar of strength to continue to support her and the family.”
Often Fathers suffer as much as Mothers but there seems to be more support geared towards mothers, with the father just 'soldiering on' It could be hard as men generally don't say much (some do, but a lot won't, especially talking I found it hard to talk to friends and family about what I as feeling. I found it easier to talk to someone that knew how you were feeling. There is not a lot of support out there directed solely at men.
“My bub spent 2 weeks in NICU and I count my blessings every day that she survived. My husband spent that time running between our dog and older child at home, me seriously ill in the maternity ward, and our baby critically ill in NICU. I was offered so much support, but no one seemed to know how to support him. This is so needed and overdue.”